Month: February 2018

What Can You Expect from Family Mediation?

Inevitably there will be lots of families dealing with all the issues surrounding divorce as we enter the second month of the year. January is peak season for divorce in the UK when couples have decided enough is enough following the uneasy truce that Christmas often brings.  

Divorce doesn’t just involve the couple themselves, however, there is also the potentially large impact it will have on other family members and children in particular. This is why it is vital that agreements are made on what happens after divorce.  

As we all hear about daily with the UK’s ‘divorce’ from the EU uncoupling and untangling years of cooperation and shared assets involves a lot of compromise and negotiations. For families, maintenance and support are often the first things that spring to mind, but there are also the smaller issues that can be no less important. Who gets the pets for example or where will children go to school?  

All of this of course can often be sorted out with some negotiation which is covered under the umbrella term of mediation. Mediation is not there to judge or be judgemental, it simply provides an opportunity for all concerned to maintain some control over what will happen. Once a case gets to court it will be down to the judge to decide and this can sometimes lead to a lot of unsatisfactory outcomes and an expensive legal bill at the end of it all.   

Unreasonable or Simply Annoying Behaviour?

A recent article in the local paper revealed some bizarre reasons used by couples to divorce and how people are becoming more and more creative when using the claim of unreasonable behaviour.  

It is well documented that living as a couple isn’t easy and involves a fair degree of compromise to make a marriage work. Unfortunately, sometimes there is something about a partner, husband or wife that becomes unbearable and this can often be something that seems trivial.  

People have used anything from disagreements over politics to spending too much time on the Internet as grounds for unreasonable behaviour. The suspicion is that the latter is likely to be used more and more as people spend more and more of their time staring at mobile phones and not interacting. 

In the past unreasonable behaviour would often be used when a partner drank too much alcohol on a regular basis or was unable or unwilling to contribute to the family finances. Now the possibilities have really started to open up and reflect the changes in the way we now live our lives.    

Although you could perhaps tie most of the claims for unreasonable behaviour down to just a few basic human needs. Sex when a partner consistently withholds it or sleep when a partner snores loudly and prevents the other person from nodding off.