Following on from our last blog, here are more tips on how to help your friend through a divorce.
Check in with them regularly
Keeping in touch with your closest family and friends during the turbulent time of divorce can be vital. It may help to lessen feelings of loneliness and offer a comforting presence that you wouldn’t otherwise have access to.
You are your friend’s greatest asset right now – reaching out and being there through thick or thin will mean more to them than all the meaningless platitudes in the world. Show that you care by staying connected throughout this difficult time!
Connecting with a friend can be as simple and lighthearted as you’d like. Try injecting some humour or good conversation into the mix to make their day brighter!
If you usually exchange memes, leave voice notes, or send each other podcast and tv recommendations, continue to do that. Check in on your friend often and keep communication open.
Really listen
Showing a friend support and attentiveness can truly make all the difference. Taking time to listen without judgment is an invaluable act of kindness that strengthens any relationship.
Actively listen to what others are saying – open your ears and not just your mouth. Don’t pass judgement or assume you can solve the problem; instead, create a safe space for them to share their thoughts.
Truly listening to your friend will help them to get things off their chest, organise their thoughts and identify what their next steps are.
By listening you’ll also gain a better understanding of how your friend feels about the divorce so you can shake off assumptions and give them the right support.
Give practical support
Going through a divorce can be one of life’s most chaotic events, making it incredibly challenging to remain organised and efficient. Although emotional support is important during such times, having the ability to pragmatically tackle the additional ‘life admin’ that comes with divorcing can make all the difference in managing this difficult period.
Supporting your friends through a logistical transition can require more than just moral support. Can you offer to help them find their dream home? Do the kids need an extra fun-filled evening while Mom and Dad tackle overwhelming tasks? Could whipping up dinner give everyone one less thing to worry about?
Consider what practical support you can offer your friend to lighten the load and free up their time and energy.
Assume nothing
Divorce can often be perceived as a difficult and arduous process, however for some it is an avenue to new opportunities. When speaking with friends who are going through this transition remember that everyone experiences life differently- don’t let your own prejudices influence the conversation.
Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, so when a friend of yours goes through it the best way to help them is by meeting them where they currently are. Understanding without judgement will bridge any gaps between their reality and your expectations – ultimately allowing you to truly support and assist in ways that make a difference.
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