My spouse wants to divorce – what should I do?

Lund Bennett Family Law - Cheshire and Manchester

Divorce can be a difficult and emotionally trying experience, even when both parties have mutually decided that it is best. When one partner has the conversation out of nowhere, however, learning about these plans for your shared future can come as an immense shock – making every moment feel all too overwhelming.

So, what should you do when your spouse tells you they want a divorce?

Speak with a divorce lawyer

Seeking help from a specialist divorce lawyer is an excellent first step in navigating the complexities of such a time-consuming and emotional process. With their professional advice, you can gain clarity on your next steps tailored to your individual situation and rest assured knowing that someone experienced will be by your side throughout it all – providing guidance, understanding legal language, and lightening the strain.

At Lund Bennett Law, our family lawyers provide tailored guidance to our clients, getting to know their unique situation and striving for the best approach. We understand that every divorce is different so we’re equipped with multiple strategies such as mediation, collaborative law or arbitration in order to come up with a solution that works for everyone – but if court proceedings are needed, we can confidently represent you there too.

Take care of yourself

Even when divorce is amicable, it can take an emotional toll. Don’t forget to check in with yourself and practice self-care during this period. Reach out for help from friends and family–they’re there to support you! It may also be a good idea to explore getting professional counseling if needed, as that could offer invaluable guidance through the transition.

Child arrangements

As parents, it’s vital that arrangements are made regarding your children to ensure their well-being. Ideally the two of you will come to an agreement on where they’ll live and when each parent gets time with them. In case this isn’t possible, a family lawyer can help settle disputes and get things legally sorted out if necessary through a child arrangement order.

In the UK the family court’s primary concern is the welfare of the children, and decisions regarding their care will be made with their best interests in mind. Unless there is evidence to the contrary, the family court works on the basis that where it is safe and appropriate to do so, maintaining relations with both parents is important for the child’s welfare.

Consider child maintenance

As you go through a divorce, it is wise to consider your post-split financial obligations towards your children. Establishing child maintenance payments will ensure their living expenses can be met in the future.

A parent’s financial contribution to the well-being of their children is an important factor when it comes to providing a secure future. Child maintenance payments help ensure that both parents share responsibilities and contribute financially, assessed on various factors such as income, living costs, care arrangements for the child or young person.

Review your finances

To navigate the complexities of divorce finances, it is essential to have a comprehensive understanding of your current financial situation. Collect data on all assets and liabilities – this includes any real estate ownership, bank accounts or investments you may hold as well as outstanding mortgages, loans or debts that need settling. Additionally, do not forget other considerations such as child maintenance payments and spousal support!

A divorce is an enormous life event, and it’s important to plan ahead before such a major transition. Taking the time to prepare as much information about your financial situation can help create a strong foundation for achieving positive long-term results after the process has been completed.

Talk to your spouse

Even amid the turmoil of a divorce, it’s still possible to keep open lines of communication with your ex-partner. With some help from experts like family lawyers and mediators, you can figure out how best to resolve issues such as child care arrangements or financial settlements without completely breaking them off.

When going through a divorce, it’s important to make sure you understand your rights. A great way to do this and gain more control of the situation is by discussing things with your spouse in an open dialogue. However, before coming to any agreements we highly recommend consulting with a specialist on family law; they’ll ensure that all terms are just and fair for both parties involved.

Dealing with the news that your spouse wants a divorce can be incredibly hard, but there are steps you can take to protect yourself and your interests and prepare for the future.

Support from a family lawyer with help to smooth out the road ahead and ensure you can move forward from a position of strength.

Lund Bennett Law is a dedicated family law practice. We will always champion you.

Our solicitors are underpinned by a team of experienced, professional secretaries and support staff with an unmatched dedication to providing our clients and team with the highest level of support and advice.

At Lund Bennett Law, our family law solicitors will provide you with tailored advice, no matter how complex your situation may be. You can rely on us for genuine support and straightforward advice that will help you make those all-important decisions.

If you would like to have an initial chat, contact our team on 0161 924 0079 or request a callback.